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The “parang kayo, pero hindi” stage.
Others call it MU or mutual
understanding. Pseudo-relationships.
Pseudo-boyfriends.Flings. Almost like a relationship,
but not quite. It is a phase
where the persons involved are more
than friends, but not quite
lovers.
Puwedeng may verbal agreement,
puwedeng wala. One or both of you may
have
admitted your feelings, possible ding
hindi. You just let your
gestures do the talking for you.
Walang pormal na ligawan na
nangyari. Hindi kayo mag-dyowa. Pero
sa kilos niyo,
sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo,
pero hindi.
This kind of “relationship” can happen
at different stages for
different reasons. It can happen after
a break-up. You still love
each other, and you want to be with
each other but you broke up for
a reason. A nd for reasons that you
alone know, ayaw niyo na muna
magkabalikan.

It can also happen before a
relationship, iyong pareho kayong
nakikiramdam.

Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-
seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian
lang muna.

Testing lang.

Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo
kasi isa sa inyo –usually
the guy –may ka-relasyon na. Kaya
habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-
break doon sa gir l (sabi niya
makikipag-break siya soon pero di
naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong
relasyon para nga naman hindi
siya nangagaliwa kasi “hindi naman
kayo.”

This pseudo-relationship stage, for a
time, can be fun. Lalo na kung
naghahanap ka lang naman ng “kalaro.”

Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may
patutunguhan kayo kasi wala
talagang kasiguraduhan.

So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa
ganitong set up ganoong hindi
naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?

Iba’t ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun
lang.

Puwedeng “buti na iyan kesa w ala” or
puwede na iyang “pantawid-
gutom.”

Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real
thing, doon muna sa kunwa-
kunwarian.

For those who are not in a serious
relationship, they would think
that pseudo-relationship is better
than no relationship at all. It
would be fun, if all you are after for
is that “kilig” feeling.

Aminado naman ako na once upon a time,
may mga pseudo-relationships
din ako.

No commitments involved. For the
simplest reason that they couldn’t
commit, because they were either
committed to someone else, or that
they weren’t ready to commit.

My rationalization, “okay na iyun,
kesa wala.”

Ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig
feeling. Iyong merong
nagtatanong kung kumusta araw ko.
Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach
outing. Iyong kapag tumunog ang
cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil
alam kong galing sa kanya ang message.
Iyong merong laging kasama.
Habang wala pa ang the real thing,
puwede na itong pagtiyagaan.

But then I learned that although it
was only a pseudo-relationship,
the emotions were real. And usually,
in this kind of set up, ang
babae lagi ang lugi.

Una, you can’t ask him to commit.
Since it’s not really a
relationship, you can’t demand
commitment from your partner. Ano ba
kayo? May K ka nga ba magpasundo ng
hatinggabi? You will always be
uncertain about your role in his life.
You can’t expect him to be
always there with you. And if you feel
jealous of the other girls,
you just have to keep it to yourself.

Ano ka ba niya para magselos?
Nagpapaka awa effect!!!???!

Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in
love with him? You can’t be
sure if he feels the same way. Baka
nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka
rin niya.

Even if you are dying to tell him you
love him, you can’t. Because you’re
not sure if he’ll like it. Baka
mapahiya ka lang. LOser ang
kahihinatnan…

This stage will always make you wonder
where you are in the
relationship.

Or if there is a relationship at all.

Pangatlo, what if you become attached
too much?

What if you have invested all your
emotions and this man hasn’t?

What if you remain faithful to him,
not entertaining other guys, only to
find
out that he is seeing other girls?

Isa pang downside ng pseudo-
relationships, it is fleeting. When a
disagreement sets in, or when one of
you gets cold, then that would
be the end of it. Unlike in a serious
relationship, hindi mo alam
kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-
relationship. Wala kang
pinanghahawakan.

Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is
no “us.” Meron lang “you and me,”
hindi “us.”

Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang
ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi
eh.

Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na
ang pseudo-relationship,
hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may
karugtong pa rin iyun. And
you will be miserable, hoping to bring
back what you used to have,
only to find out eventually that the
guy is in another pseudo-
relationship with somebody else.

Ang hirap, ano? You agreed to this
kind of set up for fun and then
you’d end up hurting yourself in the
process.

Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain
eh. Puwede naman na hindi mo
muna isipin ang future and just enjoy
the feeling, without thinking
of the consequences.

But if you are certain that you are
going to hurt yourself and
hurting someone in the process,( thats
a MORTAL SIN)kailangan mo
mamili. You can be happy and live the
moment without worrying what
would happen next. Or you can stop
settling with pseudo-
relationships and wait for the real
thing.

When I was younger and in a pseudo-
relationship with an unavailable
guy, a friend told me, “Sige, kung
ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka.

Magpakasaya ka.

Pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos,
dahil tatadyakan kita.”

Ang bottom line lang naman, kung
magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo.

Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa
consequence. Dahil ang “parang kayo
pero
hindi” stage ay bihirang nagiging
totoo. Usually, hanggang doon lang
siya … almost, but not quite.

” A true friend is someone you can
trust, who reaches for your
hand and touches your heart 
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